Winnie Verswijvel Psyche 9 jan 2020, 06:00

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Dit zijn de 20 mooiste quotes van Esther Perel

In de Bedrock-serie ‘De mooiste quotes van…’ delen we regelmatig inspirerende citaten van wijze mensen. Deze week delen we 20 mooie quotes van psychologe Esther Perel. Perel werd bekend door haar boek over Erotische Intelligentie en de relatiepodcast Where should we begin

Op de Bedrock-redactie zijn we behoorlijk fan van psychotherapeut en relatie– en seksdeskundige Esther Perel. In haar podcast “Where should we begin”, hoor je fragmenten uit échte sessies relatietherapie die Esther Perel geeft aan koppels. Een vrouw die héél wat interessants te zeggen heeft dus. Laat je inspireren door haar inspirerende quotes:

De mooiste quotes van Esther Perel

1. “The most overlooked erotic organ is our mind. We can anticipate, dream and give meaning.”

2. “If you desire freedom, go explore. Dare yourself. Take risks. Push yourself where you haven’t allowed yourself to go. Take someone new with you into the places that you love.”

3. “If you’re in need of stability, look for structure. Stand still and begin building vertically rather than horizontally. Create new rituals: a walk in the park, journaling, or meditation. Every weekend, try to call one long-distance friend.”

4. “The next time you meet someone, consider ways to open up new dialogue. Ask questions such as what are you passionate about? Or what have you been thinking about lately? Avoid the trap of boring shop talk by focusing on people not things. When you ask better questions, you’ll inspire deeper conversations.”

5. “Love likes to shrink the distance that exists between me and you, while desire is energized by it.”

6. “Too often, as couples settle into the comforts of love, they cease to fan the flame of desire. They forget that fire needs air.”

7. “Do you bring the best of yourself to work and the leftovers home? If the answer is yes, work on saving some passion for your partner.”

8. “In relationships, you change the other by changing yourself. If you don’t want a certain dynamic, do something different. If relationships are made up of interdependent parts, when one part changes, sooner or later the other one has to adapt.”

9. “No relationship is free of conflict. In the same way that we are comprised of swirling atoms – positive and negative charges that attract and repel – two people are forces orbiting each other, moving towards and away, trying to find a way to coexist and take shape in the world.”

10. “Make sure to always tell your friends and family how important they are in your lives. Today, I challenge each of you to make a meaningful connection with someone you love.
Look out for one another.”

11. “We seek intimacy to protect ourselves from feeling alone; and yet creating the distance essential to eroticism means stepping back from the comfort of our partner and feeling more alone.”

12. “Longevity is seen as the ultimate indicator of marital achievement, but plenty of people who stayed “till death do us part” have been miserable. ”

13. “There is never ‘the one.’ There is a one that you choose and with whom you decide that you want to build something. But in my opinion, there could also have been others. There is no one and only. There is the one you pick and what you choose to build with that person.”

14. “Sexually powerful men don’t harass, they seduce. It’s the insecure men who need to use power in order to leverage the insecurity and the inaccessibility or the unavailability of the women. Women fear rape, and men fear humiliation.”

15. “If all else fails, get off social media for a few days…or weeks. The time away will help you realize that striving to be someone else is a frustrating experience. Instead, focus on being the very best version of you and staying grounded in the here and now of your own life.”

16. “Listen. Just listen. You don’t have to agree. Just see if you can understand that there’s another person who has a completely different experience of the same reality.”

17. “I worked with so many couples that improved dramatically in the kitchen, and it did nothing for the bedroom. But if you fix the sex, the relationship transforms.”

18. “From the dark places, we often get a new sense of priorities.”

19. “Flirting is about playing with possibility, not going in for the kill.”

20. “Trust is the active engagement with the unknown. Trust is risky. It’s vulnerable. It’s a leap of faith.”

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